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Breast Cancer Awareness

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month. However, Breast Cancer Awareness should be an ongoing thing. We all know at least one Breast Cancer Warrior, or someone who lost their battle to Breast Cancer. Supporting the research and making donations will help one more person become a warrior. Today we hear from one of our awesome warriors, Lisa Washington.  Hear her story, be encouraged, get tested, donate!

It was a few months after my 40th Birthday when I went in for a routine mammogram. I had been having them since I was 35 due to family history. They were ready to send me on my way when I mentioned to the radiologist I had felt a lump a few weeks earlier. Since this lump did not show up on the mammogram, she then ordered a sonogram (which is what Affrican American women should request due to our dense breast tissue) and the sonogram was able to detect the lump which turned out to be breast cancer. After 6 rounds of chemo, two surgeries and radiation I stand with so many other women as not just survivors but thrivers. I am thankful for the doctors, nurses and the medicine but God is my healer. #Godisfaithful Lisa Washington 

Understanding Breast Cancer

Cancer is a broad term for a class of diseases characterized by abnormal cells that grow and invade  healthy cells in the body.  Breast cancer starts in the cells of the breast as a group of cancer cells that can then invade surrounding tissues or spread (metastasize) to other areas of the body. Breast cancer occurs when malignant tumors develop in the breast.  These cells can spread by breaking away from the original tumor and entering blood vessels or lymph vessels, which branch into tissues throughout the body. When cancer cells travel to other parts of the body and begin damaging other tissues and organs, the process is called metastasis.

Facts About Breast Cancer In The United States

  • One in eight women in the United States will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime.
  • Breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer in women.
  • Breast cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death among women.
  • Each year it is estimated that over 252,710 women in the United States will be diagnosed with breast cancer and more than 40,500 will die.
  • Although breast cancer in men is rare, an estimated 2,470 men will be diagnosed with breast cancer and approximately 460 will die each year.
  • On average, every 2 minutes a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer and 1 woman will die of breast cancer every 13 minutes.
  • Over 3.3 million breast cancer survivors are alive in the United States today.  *National Breast Cancer Foundation*

To educate yourself even more, and to make a donation please visit the website; Breast Cancer Awareness.

Online Dating II

 

“Online dating is a system that enables strangers to find and introduce themselves to new personal connections over the Internet, usually with the goal of developing personal, or romantic relationships. An online dating service is a company that provides specific mechanisms for online dating through the use of Internet-connected personal computers or mobile devices. Such companies offer a wide variety of unmoderated matchmaking services, most of which are profile-based.” Wikipedia

Online dating is the new thing for us, if you feel ashamed.. DON’T. I would say it has many perks, and very convenient. Many people have found love and success from online dating. Also, you have to be very careful when dating people you have no background on. Be open, as well as smart and cautious.  Random Fact: I absolutely love the movie, “You’ve Got Mail” with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks… If you haven’t seen it, check it out! That movie alone made me;  A) love Starbucks, and B) take a stab at online dating.

Online dating doesn’t have as much stigma as it used to. With about 40 million Americans using dating sites and apps, it’s becoming more and more common for people to meet and date online. Not to mention the fact that we spend most of our time connecting through our phones on social apps like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat anyway. I found a few pros and cons on online dating.

Pros:

  • 40% OF AMERICANS HAVE TRIED ONLINE DATING… INCLUDING ME… YOU AREN’T ALONE
  • DATING SITES MATCH BASED ON COMPATIBILITY AND PERSONALITY
  • MEET PEOPLE YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE EVER CROSSED PATHS WITH
  • ONE OUT OF FIVE RELATIONSHIPS START ONLINE
  • IF YOU SEEK OUT A PAY SITE YOU USUALLY HAVE BETTER QUALITY

Cons:

  • IT’S A CROWDED DIGITAL SPACE… YOU COULD POTENTIALLY SEE SOMEONE YOU KNOW. 🙈
  • YES, PEOPLE DO LIE ON THEIR PROFILES. #CATFISH 🙄
  • YOUR BEST CHANCE IS STILL MEETING THROUGH A FRIEND
  • WEIRDOS/STALKERS

 

With all that being said, the choice is yours. I’ll reiterate the importance of being safe! Do not share too much information too fast. If you have police officer friends, have them run their background.. Hilarious, but I am so serious. 😂

Don’t fall in love with potential

Falling in love with potential is very relevant in our personal lives, as well as professional. As a child you have dreams about who you aspire to be, as well as marry. You map out the perfect job. Attend college, and you choose a major based upon dreams that you’ve had to land your perfect job! In many ways you do the same thing when you’re dating. You’ve built up the perfect mate in your mind. Based upon things you’ve either seen on tv, or you’re trying to model a relationship based upon your parents. But what happens when you don’t land your dream job? Or you can’t find your perfect mate? What do you do? Lets take a look into both areas a little further.

Perfect Mate – As we all have before we build the “perfect” mate in our mind. As a spiritual person it’s so many things wrong with that idea. What we may think is perfect, may not be the best for us. Look back to the people you have dated and it didn’t work. It’s probably a common theme, you are over looking. It may be time to step out of your box, of mainly unrealistic expectations and see people for who they are. You may also come across people who you see things in, potential, that they may not see themselves. It is not your job to get them there. It’ll cost you more time and energy than it’s worth. Only God has the “perfect” mate for you. Trust the process, and embrace every season and the lesson that comes with.

Dream Job – Having goals in life, is what we are taught to do. With that you must possess a level of resilience to endure the hardships that come with having expectations. I spoke above about trusting the process. In everything seek out Him, and what is for you will be. Your dream job, may not be the vision you had as a child. But while you’re chasing your dream, look at all the pitfalls as lessons learned. If you hit a road block, analyze the situation. Take what you can learn from the journey, and move forward. You will repeat hardships, if you aren’t recognizing the lesson that was meant for you.

Moral of the story is to always have a Plan B. Having a Plan B doesn’t mean you failed. Failure only happens when you give up! As always these are mere suggestions, but lessons learned. 😉

The Art Of Leadership

Jack and Jill of America, Incorporated is a nonprofit African American mother’s organization with a membership of nearly 10,000. Since 1938, the organization’s objectives are to “create a medium of contact for children which will stimulate growth and development and provide children a constructive educational, cultural, civic, health, recreational and social programs.”

I was more than honored to be a part of The 5th Annual “Destination CEO Art of Leadership.” The event was hosted by Jack and Jill of America Inc, Greater Frisco and Northeast Dallas Chapters. Many students gathered for the event to participate in 6 tracks (classes) to help them broaden their horizons, and take control of their future. The 6 tracks were; Budgeting with my Future in Mind (My Group), Toastmasters – Public Speaking Excellence, Young Entrepreneur Expo, Interior Design, The Future of Medicine – Virtual Health, and Cooking with Darin.

So much fun was had this day! I had the pleasure to teach 150 students on different ways to maintain a budget. My group ranged from elementary aged students to high school. My younger students put together Anchor Charts at the end of our session, and my older students played a Kahoot game. The kiddos were very engaged, and asked many stimulating questions.

Not only were awesome classes offered to our students, but their parents were included as well. They had the opportunity to learn more about how to recognize signs of depression, how to navigate scholarships or the intern process, as well as how to prepare your child for global competition.. Good stuff! I believe these options for parents are just as awesome! Mainly because mental health is real, and shouldn’t be ignored. It can also be challenging to help your children succeed if you yourself are missing key factors. The children are our future and it is best we continue to invest in them.

I captured many moments from my time, and I put together a few for you to view. I hope to be a continued volunteer for the Jack and Jill of America organization. Enjoy!

 

Branding

 

If you have not realized how important branding yourself is, this story is ideal for you. As a Degreed African American Women I have to make sure I have an awareness of my actions at all times. I have to constantly portray enthusiasm, positivity, and intelligence. I emphasized my role, because people will put you inside an invisible box. Once you’re in the box then people percieve you. Remember, perception is everything. In this article I will highlight what I feel is most important in branding yourself.

Social Media:

If you have an online presence. Meaning you have a Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or LinkedIn page… You have an online presence. Every status update, video, picture, and comment becomes a part of your personal internet footprint. People perceive you based upon the types of topics or activities you chose to participate in. In 2017 as a professional, social media is not the best way to vent your problems. I would suggest investing in a journal for those thoughts.

Professionalism:

It is important at all times to maintain professionalism in the work place. To maintain professionalism is quite ambiguous, it entails so much. The first step to executing professionalism is having a clear understanding of what is expected of you in your current role. People can not take you serious if they can not trust you to take care of the duties outlined in your job description.

*Always be on time! To be on time, means you are arriving at least 15 minutes before start time. Time is of the essence, and it must be respected. The best way to arrive on time for work, or scheduled events is to plan out your day. “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” I know you have heard it, and it is the truth. If you are showing up late you lose credibility.

*Always prepare yourself for any meetings. You want to make sure you are well versed with the agenda and all topics covered. If you are asked any questions you want to make sure you can provide a great answer. You should also prepare stimulating questions to ask as well.

Appearance:

You may ask why appearance is a big deal, huh? What screams confidence more than a women or man in a suit? But it is more than the clothes you wear.

*It is important that your clothes fit your body frame, and are appropriate for the setting. It is pretty important to understand the difference between Business Casual, and Business Formal. Even more important to understand appropriate attire for before 5pm, and after 5pm.

*Always make sure your hair is groomed. As a curly girl, it is imperative my styles are always on point. Adding color to your hair is great, but keep it classy! Rihanna’s Scarlett Red probably will not cut it in the board room.

*I am all for body art, it is a way to express yourself. However, Fortune 500 companies may not share that same thought. So let us stay away from tattoos and piercings neck up.

Empowerment:

The act of empowerment is giving the power or authority. It is a beautiful thing when we empower others, and it needs to happen more often. Your peers can be your biggest advocates in the work environment because they can coach and mentor you. Understand that whatever title they possess, it did not come with out hard work. Take time to seek out networking groups that highlights your future goals and interests. You can not grow if you do not expand your networking activities.
Great news!! I will have a guest on my Procast who works in Marketing and Communications. If you have questions on Branding Yourself email me; fancy@fancychatblog.com.

A Seat At The Table

​​Theme: A Seat At The Table

Location: Mesero – ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Date: January 4, 2017

 

“The third album by Solange Knowles, A Seat at the Table, is a record about black survival in 2016; a combination of straight talk and refracted R&B for what she calls her “project on identity, empowerment, independence, grief and healing.” – Rolling Stone

 

Amanda Bell who hosted this great event, chose the theme, “A Seat at the Table.” If you have listened to the album you’ll understand the reason behind it. To dig a little deeper, if you are a person of color life isn’t so great right now. To give you a little more information about Amanda and her group, BWLBrunch. BWLBrunch stands for “Because Women Love Brunch” which is totally true! The group brings the ultimate brunch soiree connecting goal oriented, positive, and like – minded women. BWLBrunch creates a safe haven that allows you to let your guard down and create accelerated relationships among women that will help propel you to a better version of yourself.

 

I had a great time at the event, and I will attend another. I met a lot of great women, who has the same goals and aspirations that I do. As a woman it’s hard to network with other women, because of all types of foolishness. I referenced in my story on Branding, women can be your biggest advocate! It’s room at the top for everyone to eat. Nobody can take a place that God has set for you. So never fear another powerful woman, embrace them.

 

To top it all off Amanda chose a phenomenal venue, and the brunch was exquisite! Curls, who is one of my favs, helped sponsor the event and gave us some great goodies! To top it off we had the lovely Aye Ciara (Hair and Fashion Vlogger) provide some positive and encouraging words for us. I encourage you to check out Ms. Amanda Bell, and join the movement! We can do this together!

 

 

 

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Branding

Bella Kinks Natural Hair Expo